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Overcoming the fear of going to the gym- My Top Tips

Hi guys!

I thought today I’ll share with you a few tips on how I overcome my fear of the gym.
I know so many of you fear the thought of the gym..don’t worry I was the same.
Basically, a few months back even the thought of walking through the gym made me feel anxious. I thought everyone would be looking at me, everyone would be better at using the machines, everyone would do more reps with higher weights etc. I was afraid people would laugh at me as I was a complete newbie.

If you have similar thoughts let me tell you, you are WRONG! Absolutely no-one will do the above, guys. I have not met a nicer bunch of people than the ones in my gym. I know I am not the best at weightlifting and most certainly cannot run as fast and as long as some others, but I am doing the best for myself by giving my body the chance to sweat and change itself while working out. As I mentioned in a previous post, I struggled hard with my own mind for majority of my life (on and off). Making the decision to overcome a fear that in return will make me love my own body (for the first time ever) was such a hard yet rewarding step in my journey.

By all means, you can set up a gym at home and work out there, but honestly going to the gym makes me much more motivated. I cannot work as hard at home as I would in the gym and for now this is the cheapest option too. Proper gym equipment (and the servicing and upkeep) is not cheap !! I do want to have my own gym at home if and when I move out but that is a different story for a different time 🙂

Overcoming the Fear

I have a few tips that I recommend you to try if you find it hard to walk through the door of your gym:

  • Headphones. OMG these are still something I carry around with me to every gym sesh. I LOVE music and I have my own style and my own favourites. My gym plays normal hits that you would listen to on the radio. As you may know that is not really my scene so I do love listening to my own music with a much heavier beat when I work out. It also helps me get into the ‘zone’ and forget about everything around me and concentrate solely on my workout. TRUST ME it works wonders… Having your own music comforts your mind and by doing that your body will be at ease and you will slowly start enjoying yourself and loving the gym. I know I did!
  • Playlist. This sort of goes with the above. Take time and make yourself an up beat playlist for your workout. A good beat is essential for me when I run for example. (I love listening to Rammstein during my LISS sessions on the treadmill- 1 hour of pure German goodness ) There is nothing worse than taking time out of your workout shuffling the songs on your iPod.. waste of precious time ! DON’T DO IT!
  • Have a plan. This may be hard if you are super new to working out. I would recommend starting in your gym and booking an introduction session with one of the PTs.(personal trainers) This usually is free, as they would just walk around and show you how to use the machines, how to operate things etc. I recommend this as the next time you come you will know where things are kept etc and you won’t walk around looking for things. It also allows you to ask some questions from the PT. Don’t be afraid, they are there to help you along, and they will point you to the right direction 🙂 . Trust them they know what they are talking about. It’s not a bad idea to take some classes from a personal trainer and then once you know a few moves etc you can then work out by yourself. HOWEVER not everyone has the spare cash (I was the same) so I just googled and watched youtube for inspiration. Pinterest is also good. BUT BE CAREFUL! I researched most of the workouts and made sure I get the posture right as I did not want to hurt myself. ASK THE PTs.
    So yeah, I write up an exercise plan before I go to the gym every single time. It keeps me on track I get everything done and then I come home. I get things done better, faster and more effectively with a plan. (I do have a PT too as I am getting ready for a competition but it is not essential if you can get yourself motivated enough)
  • Take pictures. What I mean is take a before picture of yourself in a few angles, and it will keep you motivated. TRUST ME. I love watching my body change. There is absolutely nothing wrong with my ‘before’ picture but it is amazing how your body changes in such a little time. I love it! It also helps you see the changes. You live in your body everyday (obviously) and see yourself daily, but its not the same seeing yourself from above as it is from the point of view of another person. It doesn’t have to be for anyone else, but yourself.
  • Friends. I had a few friends that have already started going to the free classes our gym offers before I moved to Ireland so I joined them a few weeks after I moved. The classes were great to get me started on this crazy journey. Most gyms offer the classes so don’t be afraid to ask about them. It is definitely a great way to get your confidence up.
    If you don’t already have friends that attend the gym, try and convince a few to tag along with you. The gym is not just for bodybuilders!

Last very important point!! Please DO NOT COMPARE yourself to anyone else, and make sure you do this for your own body. All you can do is try your best and trust me it will be worth it. Don’t punish yourself if you decide to have a cheat week, you can always get back on track. If you really want to achieve something you will be able to. Everyone is different and everyones body is different so concentrate on your goals and you will do great at achieving them.

Thanks for reading (I know it was a bit long).
Comment below your best tips for anyone that struggles with attending the gym.

Love,
Fil x

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Comfort eater to gym bunny – mind and body comfort

Hi guys!

Can you believe its June already? Where the heck is the time going ??

Oh I’ve had such a busy few weeks, and I thought I’ll give you guys a wee update about how my prepping is going for this show.
If you are new to filsjourney, WELCOME. I am just your average food lover who has decided to go on a crazy journey and lifestyle change. I have even signed myself up to a fitness competition (bikini class) and I cannot bloody wait to see how my body transforms.

I will no doubt post some transformation pictures after my first 6 weeks is over 🙂 Make sure to follow the blog and my IG to see the results.

making the change- no more anxiety

Right let’s get onto todays topic. This is something I don’t often talk about but I find really important. I have been challenging myself in the last few weeks and achieving things I never thought my body and mind could be capable of. Therefore I thought why not share with you my real struggles. I know I am not the only one going through these issues, but I do think it is not addressed enough. I am talking about mental health and anxiety. Social media has took off in the last few years and YES we have a few big names who have talked about their mental health however I do think it has been a subject of abuse too recently. I wish for nothing more than the people who are not struggling to STOP pretending to have anxiety just to get sympathy on social media. Not even sympathy but followers. Its ridiculous, as its something I don’t wish on anyone and there times I would give you my all to be able to get rid of it.

As you may have guessed from the title, I used to be a comfort eater. I don’t remember ever not being one. I firmly remember the issue starting when my nan passed away over 13 years ago. I am only 24 so yeah, more than half of my life I had this thing clouding up my mind and I never even knew about it. It is such a viscous circle! I felt crap so I ate my favourite food, and then I felt bad about my body changing so I went on a crash diet. When the diet didn’t work or I regained the weight I did the whole thing over again. It has taken me so long to finally LOVE and accept my body for the way it is. I want other people to realise, the same way as I did that you only get the one body and the one mind and instead of punishing it, you should look after it. Don’t get me wrong, I may not be 100% happy with my body, but this is why I have started to change my lifestyle and work out and eat better.

Honestly I cannot recommend exercise enough. I have also started to read a few books about anxiety and how to overcome panic attacks and how to love your body etc and they are helping me so so so much. It is not easy to make a change at the start. Maybe start by going for a walk once a week, and then increase it and by the end of a few weeks you will realise how much better you will feel on the days where you work out. Yoga and pilates is also something I would recommend. I have tried yoga a few times and honestly my mind was at peace and rest, and I didn’t worry about anything else apart from getting my body stretched out.

Basically what I am trying to say is that you do not have to punish yourself and feel bad by eating at 10pm, instead go an do something great for your body tomorrow. Take a step forward and respect the body that you got. Do your best to make your body and mind the best it can be for your own good. DO not try to copy someone especially from social media as not all of that is real. Be yourself and listen to your body, respect it and take care of it as you really only have the one life.

I am really happy that I no longer feel the constant anxiety. Don’t get me wrong it happens every so often, but by listening to great music, going to the gym to get my stress out, doing yoga to clear my mind and stretch my body, helps me a LOT. I found something that makes me feel much better than eating junk food. I not only feel proud of myself for going to the gym, but I also see the changes that are happening to my body and I am stronger than I have ever been before. It truly is a fantastic thing to love your body and take care of your mind. I am glad I see it now and can finally work on my issues to become the person I know I can be.

If you have similar issues, don’t be afraid to talk to someone. Seek some help, choose exercise over any other method that harms your body. Take some time out of the stressful situation you may be in. Read a book or listen to music. Respect yourself. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! No-one masters their life in one day, so relax and let yourself achieve your goals at your own pace.

Love,
Fil x

 

Taking baby steps towards a better me

Hi guys!

I can’t believe how much my life has changed in the past few months.

So from my previous (I know its been ages) post you know that I have moved back home with the parents. I took this opportunity to actually get my life in order again and to do something for myself. And thats EXACTLY what I have been doing in the past few weeks. Keep reading to see what I am talking about!

filsjourney- fitness

Coming back home has not exactly been the easiest ride of my life. Adapting to living with the parents after being independent living alone for 6 years has had its ups and downs for sure. I am so lucky though to have such amazing parents who just let me take my time with settling in and doing my own things. Anyways enough about that. So here I was, back in my childhood bedroom trying to figure out what to do next. I was lucky to get a job pretty much straight away which has helped me to put aside money worries. But I was stuck whether should I do a course, should I eat my weight in pasta (not the worst choice ha), should I start working out, should I this should I that…

This is when I realised that I need to take things easy and slow down with the planning. Don’t get me wrong planning your life is great, but I was going over the top. I wanted things to happen and to happen quick instead of making long term plans. I went through a lot in the first few months of the year and I had to get my mind into the right place before I could plan anything else, such as studying.

A few weeks have passed and I was starting to feel much more comfortable with my situation. I was settling into work, my mind was recovering from the breakup and I was starting to go to the gym. YES, … me,…  I started going to the gym.. Still ate crap and takeaways etc but I was getting into a new routine.

This is when everything started clicking into place. I decided that instead of studying a new course, I wanted to get fit. I wanted to get fit every New Years, every month at least once but was just never in the right place mentally before. BUT this time it was different. This time I decided to go big with the plans and have done a lot of research and set out an achievable (VERY HARD BUT ACHIEVABLE) goal.

I signed myself up to a fitness competition. AND PLEASE don’t be one of those who imagines a fitness competition having 1 category which is the super muscled women. THATS just one of MANY categories. Give it a google and you’ll see that you can have bikini, toned and physique. Physique is where you’ll see the huge muscles and honestly (virtual) hat off to those competitors as it ain’t easy being so ripped. I of course sign ed up to the bikini division, as I want to build slight muscle with definition but keep feminine. (thats what the website describe it as).

So I am starting week 3 of my prep (got about 18 weeks) on Monday and I am super excited to see results. I will surely keep you posted and will do a before/after style post half way through as well as at the end of my prep. It is hard, and requires a lot of dedication already but I can see my body change and I just feel like a different person. I think I have found my happiness again. I can’t complain!

Make sure to follow me on my other social media to keep up to date with my meals and post workout selfies (neither of them is pretty but heyho).

Please let me know if you have done something similar or if you have ideas on how to keep motivated in similar situation.

Love,
Fil, x

Learning to cope…

Hey guys!

If you have read my previous post you know that something major has happened in my life  in the past few weeks. It has not been easy to find the motivation to even get out of bed, but I am now able to talk about it and it may be helpful for some of you going through a similar situation.

People do say bad things happen in 3s and believe you me, they do. I am a firm believer that things to happen for a reason and there is an explanation and a plan at the end of all this. It really doesn’t feel that way right now, but I am trying to be as positive about the situation as I can.

Right, so these 3 events happened within a week, which has made them much more difficult to deal with for me. Feels like the whole world is just upside down right now and I was loosing my grip. So as I said in 5 days I basically became single, homeless and jobless. One event led to another really. When myself and J broken up we both sort of became homeless as we had to start looking for a new place to rent. If you are a pet owner you know how difficult it is to find a place which accepts pets when you are renting. Once I finally found a flat that was within budget, accepted pets and was in a good location to work I thought I was all settled and ready to move. Unfortunately life had another idea, and my management given me the option to relocate to another location in the country or to make me redundant basically. (downsizing this branch to build up others instead) . This has come as a shock to my system, however due to not knowing the other city I was not able to make that decision. I wouldn’t have had any friends, and after breaking up, being completely alone was just not the option I wanted to follow. I have since looked for other jobs and have gotten many other offers, but non of which seem that great for me.

A drip here,a drop there, conserve water with care.

This is the reason why I decided that in order to have a chance at finding myself and getting back on my feet, I will move home to my parents’ house for a few months. The only issue is that it is in Ireland, and I have lived alone here in Manchester for 6 years. Big changes and a lot of adaptation is necessary and I need to see the positive in all of this. I have to continuously tell myself this is not a failure and I will once again move back to the UK or elsewhere once I am feeling better and my finances are sorted. I acrually found a job befoe I even moved back so I am well and truly ready to start moving on and planning my future.

I wanted to share this with you as I am sure I am not the only one that has gone through something like this. I want to make sure that you all know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and that things happen for a reason. I realise this now and this is why I can talk about what happened more openly.

I am  now back home with the parents and I am not going to lie, it is difficult to adjust but I am working on things. I know this was the best choice for me and I am extremely lucky and gratful that I had the oportunity of coming home.

I am thankful to all of you for sticking around and for being inspirational to keep going.
I will be back to normal shortly and cannot wait to share some great posts with you guys!

Love, as always
Fil, x